Why a Woman Can Get Sexually Turned-off

There are many reasons why a woman can get sexually turned-off. Unlike what you see in the movies, sex is not free from awkward situations, goof ups or embarrassments.

We might do something unconsciously because we are so habituated of that, but for the other person, it could be a total switch off. In all my years of experience, women have mentioned many things guys do which turns them off sexually. Read to know if you are not doing any of them:

1. Bad hygiene
Women hate when guys smell or have poor hygiene. Before you even think about hopping into the bed, you should make sure you've showered and don't smell like you’ve just come out of a pig sty! In addition, it's important to do the proper maintenance actions like shaving, applying deodorant, cleaning your ears and brushing your teeth. Though some woman may like the body odour, but too much of even that is bad; bad breath especially that of onion & garlic is the biggest turn off. If you constantly smell bad, go visit a doctor.

2. Being a poor kisser
If you have seen the movie Hitch, you know exactly what I mean. The first kiss is the most important thing when starting is relationship. It tells tales about your sexual compatibility and believe it or not, it also says a lot about you as a person. Show some passion when kissing her; show her that she makes your pulse race! Acting in a wispy or aggressive way while kissing is such a turn-off.

3. Saying ex’s name
‘Oh Priyanka!’ you moan, her name’s actually Ridhima! Oops. Your credibility just went out the window and, no doubt, the passion went with it -- probably for weeks together.
If you do happen to make this huge blunder, be extremely apologetic, give her a massage and take her out for a romantic dinner. Don’t stop brownnosing until she forgives you. She will, eventually. But first, you'll have to prove that she is the only one for you and that it was an honest mistake and that, no, you don’t think about anyone else but her -- ever -- because she is the most beautiful, intelligent, witty, and fantastically sexy woman you have ever met. At least she should think so.

4. Acting like a wimp
The simple truth about sex is women want to be with men who act like MEN. If you're acting like a wimp in the bedroom, then you're turning her off. Wispy behavior involves asking her if "she's enjoying herself" or being too afraid to try new things.

5. Acting too aggressive
Now being too aggressive is just as bad as acting like a wimp. When you try to push a woman around you'll display disgusting behavior. If she thinks you're only concerned with your own pleasure, then she won't enjoy sex with you. While women want men who act confidently, you should NEVER get too aggressive with a woman.


Be gentle and firm, and before engaging in any aggressive sexual behavior, make sure that she's up for it. Otherwise you could be left high and hard with a very turned-off woman on your hands.

6. Rushing things
A half-hearted attempt at foreplay is a big turn off. If you are one of those who believe in skipping the foreplay altogether, so that you can get the part that you are more interested is not just boring but down-right insulting! So don’t complain if she’s not very keen on making out with you coz honestly, this is frustrating for her. Like I have told you numerous times before, women are like iron.. Need more time to heat up and cool down. So need foreplay and romance to get aroused. To them, the build up and the foreplay is as just as important as the ‘main act’.

Finding yourself in an uncomfortable situation during sex is not uncommon. In fact, we are led to believe that sexual encounters should flow beautifully and be indefinably passionate, and that nothing hilarious, embarrassing or awkward ever happens. We all know by now that this is not always the case. You can help prevent things from being your fault by being prepared: Be clean, follow good sexual etiquette, and show respect for both your relationship and your lover. The bottom line? If you follow these guidelines, you will get more sex...
Dr PARAS SHAH IS THE CHIEF CONSULTANT SEXOLOGIST & FERTILITY SPECIALIST
SAL HOSPITAL,
SANNIDHYA MATERNITY & MULTI SPECIALITY HSOPITAL,
RAJASTHAN HOSPITAL
dr9157504000@shospital.org 

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ઘણા લોકોના જીવનમાં એવું જોવા મળે છે કે તેઓને તેમના જાતીય જીવનમાં પહેલાં જેવી ગરમાહટ કે ઉષ્માનો અનુભવ નથી થતો. જાતીય સંબંધોનો પ્રારંભિક આવેશ સમયની સાથે સાથે ઓસરતો જતો હોય તેવું લાગે છે. કેટલીકવાર બેમાંથી એક કે બંને જણાં પોતાની રીતે લગ્નેતર સંબંધોમાં પણ ખેંચાય છે. જોકે આમ કરી લગ્નજીવનને ભંગાણના આરે લઇ જતાં પહેલાં અહીં સૂચવેલા કેટલાક ઉપાયો તમારી શુષ્ક અને નિરસ જાતીય જિંદગીને વધુ આનંદદાયી બનાવવામાં ચોક્કસ ઉપયોગી નીવડશે. હકીકતમાં પણ એવી થોડી વાતો હોય છે જે તેની પાર્ટનરમાં હોય તો પુરુષને ગમે છે.

-    તે સેક્સનો આનંદ માણવા માગે છે: મોટાભાગે સ્ત્રીઓ પુરુષોને સંતોષ આપવા માટે સેક્સ માણતી હોય છે. જ્યારે પુરુષો માત્ર મજા ખાતર સેક્સ માણે છે. ઘણીવાર સેક્સ દરમિયાન એવી પરિસ્થિતિ ઊભી થતી હોય છે કે જેના કારણે તમારામાંથી કોઇ એક ક્ષોભમાં મુકાઇ જતું હોય છે. આવા સમયે તમે બંનેએ પરિસ્થિતિને હસી કાઢશો તો સેક્સની એક મજા પડશે.

- જાતે ઉત્તેજિત થતી સ્ત્રી ગમે છે: પુરુષોને એવી સ્ત્રીઓ ખૂબ ગમે છે જેને ઉત્તેજિત કરવા માટે તેમણે સમય ન કાઢવો પડે અથવા તો વધારે સમય ફોરપ્લે માટે ન ગાળવો પડે. પોતાની મેળે ઉત્તેજિત થતી સ્ત્રીઓ ગમે છે.

- તે ઇચ્છે છે કે તમે થોડા નિખાલસ બનો: તમને તમારા પાર્ટનરની કઇ ચેષ્ટા ગમે છે અને કઇ નહીં, તે વિશે પુરુષો હંમેશાં મૂંઝવણમાં હોય છે. તેઓ તમારા ચહેરાના હાવભાવ અથવા લાગણીઓ સમજવામાં થોડા ઢીલા હોય છે. આ માટે તેઓ ઇચ્છે છે કે તમે તમારી પસંદ અને નાપસંદ વિશે તેમને નિખાલસપણે જણાવો જેથી તે તમને આનંદ આપી શકે.

-    પુરુષોને તમને જોવા ગમે છે: સેક્સ દરમિયાન તમે એકબીજાને જોઇ શકો તે વાત પુરુષોને ગમે છે. તમે ઇચ્છો તો અરીસા સામે જઇને સેક્સ માણી શકો છો અથવા તો સેક્સ દરમિયાન તદ્દન નિર્વસ્ત્ર થવાને બદલે તમે સેક્સી લોન્ઝરી પહેરેલી રાખી શકો છો. પુરુષોને કલ્પનામાં રાચવું ગમે છે.

- તમે થોડા નટખટ બની શકો છો: ભલે તમે સારી યુવતી હોવ તેમ છતાં પુરુષો ઇચ્છે છે કે ઘણીવાર પથારીમાં તમે ખરાબ યુવતીની જેમ નટખટ હરકતો કરો. તમે ઇચ્છો તો તમે સામે ચાલીને કોઇ નવી પોઝિશન અપનાવવા માટે કહી શકો છો.

-    તેને સેક્સનો અદભુત અનુભવ કરાવો: મોટાભાગે સેક્સ માટે પુરુષો જ પહેલ કરતા હોય છે. જોકે કોઇ દિવસે તમે સામે ચાલીને સેક્સની પહેલ કરશો અને તેમને વાઇલ્ડ અને રોમેન્ટિક સેક્સ તરફ દોરી જશો તો તે તમને ઇચ્છવા છતાં ભૂલી નહીં શકે.

-    તેને સેક્સમાં પણ વેરાયટી જોઇએ છે: વેનિલા શ્રેષ્ઠ છે. તેમાં કંઇ ખોટું નથી પરંતુ ધારો કે તમે ક્યારે પણ બીજા કોઇ વિકલ્પનો ઉપયોગ કર્યો જ નથી. વેનિલા ચોકલેટ ચીપનો પણ નહીં. કેટલાક જાતીય સંબંધોનું પણ આવું જ છે અને સેક્સોલોજિસ્ટો તેમની પાસે સારવાર માટે આવતાં યુગલોને નવા પ્રયોગો અજમાવવાની સલાહ આપે છે. મોટાભાગના લોકો સેક્સ લાઇફમાં નવા નવા પ્રયોગો કરવાની ઇચ્છા ધરાવતા હોય છે, પરંતુ તેમનો સાથી તેમને વિકૃત ગણશે તે બીકે મન મારીને બેસી રહે છે. આ માનસિકતામાંથી બહાર આવો. એકની એક વસ્તુથી કોઇ પણ વ્યક્તિ કંટાળી જાય છે. સેક્સમાં એવું જ હોય છે. તેઓને સેક્સની નવી પોઝિશન, સ્પીડ, જગ્યા, પ્રેશર વગેરે વિશે નવા અખતરાઓ કરતા રહેવાનું કહો.

-    સરપ્રાઇઝ સેક્સ પુરુષોને પણ પસંદ છે: નિયમિત સેક્સ માણવાનાં સ્થળો સિવાય જુદી જુદી જગ્યાઓએ સેક્સ માણવું જોઇએ. ઘણીવાર તમે કોઇ જગ્યાએથી પાછા ફરતા હોવ ત્યારે કોઇ એકાંત સ્થળે ગાડી રોકાવીને તમે સેક્સ માણી શકો છો. આ માટે હોટલ પણ યોગ્ય સ્થળ છે.

-    તેઓ તમને દોરી જવા ઇચ્છે છે: પુરુષોને ઘણીવાર વાઇલ્ડ એક્ટ ગમે છે પણ તમને નહીં ગમે તે કારણે તેઓ આવાં પગલાં નથી લેતા. પણ જો તમે તેમને જણાવી દો કે તમે એના માટે તૈયાર છો તો તેઓને વધુ આનંદ મળશે.

-    ઘણીવાર તેઓ કંઇ જ કરવા નથી માગતા: ઘણીવાર પુરુષો ઇચ્છે છે કે તે પણ તમારી જેમ પથારીમાં માત્ર પડ્યા છે અને તમે જ બધી પહેલ કરો. તેમને ઉત્તેજિત કરવાથી લઇને તેમને સંતોષ આપવા સુધીની બધી જ પ્રવૃત્તિ તમે કરો તો તેઓ તમારી પાછળ પાગલ થઇ જશે.

સંબંધની પ્રારંભિક ઉષ્માનું તમે ક્યારેય પુનરાવર્તન કરી શકતા નથી પરંતુ તમારે તમારા સાથીની મરજીને પણ માન આપવું જોઇએ. જો તમારામાં સંબંધોની આંતરિક લાગણી કે ખેંચાણ નહીં હોય તો કોઇ પણ ઉપાય કે સૂચન તમારા સંબંધોની ઉષ્માને એક ડિગ્રી જેટલી પણ નહીં વધારી શકે. તમે એવાં ઘણાં યુગલોને જોશો કે જેઓ પરસ્પર જરાયે સન્માન નહીં ધરાવતાં હોય તેમ છતાં એકબીજા પ્રત્યે ખેંચાણ ધરાવે છે. જો તમે ખરેખર કાળજી રાખતા હોય તો બધું જ તમારી પર આધાર રાખે છે.

( લેખક સાલ હોસ્પિટલમાં ચીફ સેક્સોલોજિસ્ટ અને ‌વંધ્યત્વ નિષ્ણાત છે.)
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Dr Paras Shah is Best Sexologist of the Town.. He is heading the department of Sexual medicine and fertility at Sannidhya Maternity & Multi Speciality hospital, Ahmedabad, SAL hospital, Ahmedabad, Rajasthan Hospital, Ahmedabad, Apollo Clinic, Surat.

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ઘણા લોકોના જીવનમાં એવું જોવા મળે છે કે તેઓને તેમના જાતીય જીવનમાં પહેલાં જેવી ગરમાહટ કે ઉષ્માનો અનુભવ નથી થતો. જાતીય સંબંધોનો પ્રારંભિક આવેશ સમયની સાથે સાથે ઓસરતો જતો હોય તેવું લાગે છે. કેટલીકવાર બેમાંથી એક કે બંને જણાં પોતાની રીતે લગ્નેતર સંબંધોમાં પણ ખેંચાય છે. જોકે આમ કરી લગ્નજીવનને ભંગાણના આરે લઇ જતાં પહેલાં અહીં સૂચવેલા કેટલાક ઉપાયો તમારી શુષ્ક અને નિરસ જાતીય જિંદગીને વધુ આનંદદાયી બનાવવામાં ચોક્કસ ઉપયોગી નીવડશે. હકીકતમાં પણ એવી થોડી વાતો હોય છે જે તેની પાર્ટનરમાં હોય તો પુરુષને ગમે છે.

 

-    તે સેક્સનો આનંદ માણવા માગે છે: મોટાભાગે સ્ત્રીઓ પુરુષોને સંતોષ આપવા માટે સેક્સ માણતી હોય છે. જ્યારે પુરુષો માત્ર મજા ખાતર સેક્સ માણે છે. ઘણીવાર સેક્સ દરમિયાન એવી પરિસ્થિતિ ઊભી થતી હોય છે કે જેના કારણે તમારામાંથી કોઇ એક ક્ષોભમાં મુકાઇ જતું હોય છે. આવા સમયે તમે બંનેએ પરિસ્થિતિને હસી કાઢશો તો સેક્સની એક મજા પડશે.

- જાતે ઉત્તેજિત થતી સ્ત્રી ગમે છે: પુરુષોને એવી સ્ત્રીઓ ખૂબ ગમે છે જેને ઉત્તેજિત કરવા માટે તેમણે સમય ન કાઢવો પડે અથવા તો વધારે સમય ફોરપ્લે માટે ન ગાળવો પડે. પોતાની મેળે ઉત્તેજિત થતી સ્ત્રીઓ ગમે છે.

 

- તે ઇચ્છે છે કે તમે થોડા નિખાલસ બનો: તમને તમારા પાર્ટનરની કઇ ચેષ્ટા ગમે છે અને કઇ નહીં, તે વિશે પુરુષો હંમેશાં મૂંઝવણમાં હોય છે. તેઓ તમારા ચહેરાના હાવભાવ અથવા લાગણીઓ સમજવામાં થોડા ઢીલા હોય છે. આ માટે તેઓ ઇચ્છે છે કે તમે તમારી પસંદ અને નાપસંદ વિશે તેમને નિખાલસપણે જણાવો જેથી તે તમને આનંદ આપી શકે.

-    પુરુષોને તમને જોવા ગમે છે: સેક્સ દરમિયાન તમે એકબીજાને જોઇ શકો તે વાત પુરુષોને ગમે છે. તમે ઇચ્છો તો અરીસા સામે જઇને સેક્સ માણી શકો છો અથવા તો સેક્સ દરમિયાન તદ્દન નિર્વસ્ત્ર થવાને બદલે તમે સેક્સી લોન્ઝરી પહેરેલી રાખી શકો છો. પુરુષોને કલ્પનામાં રાચવું ગમે છે.

- તમે થોડા નટખટ બની શકો છો: ભલે તમે સારી યુવતી હોવ તેમ છતાં પુરુષો ઇચ્છે છે કે ઘણીવાર પથારીમાં તમે ખરાબ યુવતીની જેમ નટખટ હરકતો કરો. તમે ઇચ્છો તો તમે સામે ચાલીને કોઇ નવી પોઝિશન અપનાવવા માટે કહી શકો છો.

-    તેને સેક્સનો અદભુત અનુભવ કરાવો: મોટાભાગે સેક્સ માટે પુરુષો જ પહેલ કરતા હોય છે. જોકે કોઇ દિવસે તમે સામે ચાલીને સેક્સની પહેલ કરશો અને તેમને વાઇલ્ડ અને રોમેન્ટિક સેક્સ તરફ દોરી જશો તો તે તમને ઇચ્છવા છતાં ભૂલી નહીં શકે.

-    તેને સેક્સમાં પણ વેરાયટી જોઇએ છે: વેનિલા શ્રેષ્ઠ છે. તેમાં કંઇ ખોટું નથી પરંતુ ધારો કે તમે ક્યારે પણ બીજા કોઇ વિકલ્પનો ઉપયોગ કર્યો જ નથી. વેનિલા ચોકલેટ ચીપનો પણ નહીં. કેટલાક જાતીય સંબંધોનું પણ આવું જ છે અને સેક્સોલોજિસ્ટો તેમની પાસે સારવાર માટે આવતાં યુગલોને નવા પ્રયોગો અજમાવવાની સલાહ આપે છે. મોટાભાગના લોકો સેક્સ લાઇફમાં નવા નવા પ્રયોગો કરવાની ઇચ્છા ધરાવતા હોય છે, પરંતુ તેમનો સાથી તેમને વિકૃત ગણશે તે બીકે મન મારીને બેસી રહે છે. આ માનસિકતામાંથી બહાર આવો. એકની એક વસ્તુથી કોઇ પણ વ્યક્તિ કંટાળી જાય છે. સેક્સમાં એવું જ હોય છે. તેઓને સેક્સની નવી પોઝિશન, સ્પીડ, જગ્યા, પ્રેશર વગેરે વિશે નવા અખતરાઓ કરતા રહેવાનું કહો.

 

-    સરપ્રાઇઝ સેક્સ પુરુષોને પણ પસંદ છે: નિયમિત સેક્સ માણવાનાં સ્થળો સિવાય જુદી જુદી જગ્યાઓએ સેક્સ માણવું જોઇએ. ઘણીવાર તમે કોઇ જગ્યાએથી પાછા ફરતા હોવ ત્યારે કોઇ એકાંત સ્થળે ગાડી રોકાવીને તમે સેક્સ માણી શકો છો. આ માટે હોટલ પણ યોગ્ય સ્થળ છે.

-    તેઓ તમને દોરી જવા ઇચ્છે છે: પુરુષોને ઘણીવાર વાઇલ્ડ એક્ટ ગમે છે પણ તમને નહીં ગમે તે કારણે તેઓ આવાં પગલાં નથી લેતા. પણ જો તમે તેમને જણાવી દો કે તમે એના માટે તૈયાર છો તો તેઓને વધુ આનંદ મળશે.

-    ઘણીવાર તેઓ કંઇ જ કરવા નથી માગતા: ઘણીવાર પુરુષો ઇચ્છે છે કે તે પણ તમારી જેમ પથારીમાં માત્ર પડ્યા છે અને તમે જ બધી પહેલ કરો. તેમને ઉત્તેજિત કરવાથી લઇને તેમને સંતોષ આપવા સુધીની બધી જ પ્રવૃત્તિ તમે કરો તો તેઓ તમારી પાછળ પાગલ થઇ જશે.

 

સંબંધોની પ્રારંભિક ઉષ્માનું તમે ક્યારેય પુનરાવર્તન કરી શકતા નથી પરંતુ તમારે તમારા સાથીની મરજીને પણ માન આપવું જોઇએ. જો તમારામાં સંબંધોની આંતરિક લાગણી કે ખેંચાણ નહીં હોય તો કોઇ પણ ઉપાય કે સૂચન તમારા સંબંધોની ઉષ્માને એક ડિગ્રી જેટલી પણ નહીં વધારી શકે. તમે એવાં ઘણાં યુગલોને જોશો કે જેઓ પરસ્પર જરાયે સન્માન નહીં ધરાવતાં હોય તેમ છતાં એકબીજા પ્રત્યે ખેંચાણ ધરાવે છે. જો તમે ખરેખર કાળજી રાખતા હોય તો બધું જ તમારી પર આધાર રાખે છે.

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WHAT'S KILLING YOUR ERECTION?

WHAT'S KILLING YOUR ERECTION?

Most men will experience erectile dysfunction at one time or another. erectile dysfunction is a common complaint among men, occurring in about 52% of men aged 40-70. The presence of  erectile dysfunction may be an early sign of these conditions. The causes of erectile dysfunction can be psychological, physical, and/or a combination of both. Nonetheless, it is believed that physical causes for erectile dysfunction may occur in a large majority of men who have it. If erectile dysfunction occurs more than 50% of the time, or is otherwise a concern or causing distress, a man should consider seeking medical advice and treatment.

The brain is an often-overlooked erogenous zone. Sexual excitement starts in your head and works its way down. Depression can dampen your desire and can lead to erectile dysfunction. Ironically, many of the drugs used to treat depression can also suppress your sex drive and make it harder to get an erection, and they can cause a problem in your orgasm. 

Erectile dysfunction may be associated with other conditions such as diabetes, coronary artery disease, hypertension and depression. The sequence of events resulting in an erection involves nerve impulses in the brain, spine, and penis. Also involved are the subsequent responses in the body's muscles, fibrous tissues, veins, and arteries in and near the corpora cavernosa (spongy tissue chambers in the penis that fill with blood during an erection). Kidney disease can cause chemical changes in the body. These changes can affect hormones, circulation, nerve and muscle function, and energy level, all of which can affect a man's ability to achieve and maintain and erection. Vascular diseases are those that affect the blood vessels. These diseases include atherosclerosis (build-up of cholesterol plaques), high blood pressure, diabetes, and coronary artery disease. Vascular disease can restrict blood flow to the heart, brain, penis, lower extremities, and other locations within the body. Surgery to treat prostate cancer can result in erectile dysfunction, even though prostate cancer alone does not cause erectile dysfunction. It is important to understand that all current treatments for prostate cancer including external beam radiation, radioactive seeds (brachytherapy), and hormones may result in erectile dysfunction.

These are the common physical causes for erectile dysfunction. However, If you have erectile dysfunction, one should also look for one of these things which may be the culprit.

Stress

It's not easy to get in the mood when you're overwhelmed by responsibilities at work and home. Stress can take its toll on many different parts of your body, including your penis. Deal with stress by making lifestyle changes that promote well-being and relaxation, such as exercising regularly, getting enough sleep, and seeking professional help when appropriate.

Anxiety

Worrying that you won't be able to perform in bed can make it harder for you to do just that. Anxiety from other parts of your life can also spill over into the bedroom. All that worry can make you fear and avoid intimacy, which can spiral into a vicious cycle that puts a big strain on your sex life and relationship.

Anger

Anger can make the blood rush to your face, but not to the one place you need it when you want to have sex. It's not easy to feel romantic when you're raging, whether your anger is directed at your partner or not. Unexpressed anger or improperly expressed anger can contribute to performance problems in the bedroom.

Alcohol

You might consider having a few drinks to get in the mood, but overindulging could make it harder for you to finish the act. Heavy alcohol use can interfere with erections, but the effects are usually temporary. The good news is that moderate drinking one or two drinks a day might have health benefits like reducing heart disease risks. And those risks are similar to erectile dysfunction risks.

Medications

The contents of your medicine cabinet could affect your performance in the bedroom. A long list of common drugs can cause ED, including certain blood pressure drugs, pain medications, and antidepressants. Street drugs like amphetamines, cocaine, and marijuana can cause sexual problems in men, too.

Middle-Aged Spread

Carrying extra pounds can impact your sexual performance, and not just by lowering your self-esteem. Obese men have lower levels of the male hormone testosterone, which is important for sexual desire and producing an erection. Being overweight is also linked to high blood pressure and hardening of the arteries, which can reduce blood flow to the penis.

Self-Image

When you don't like what you see in the mirror, it's easy to assume your partner isn't going to like the view, either. A negative self-image can make you worry not only about how you look, but also how well you're going to perform in bed. That performance anxiety can make you too anxious to even attempt sex.

Low Libido

Low libido isn't the same as erectile dysfunction, but a lot of the same factors that stifle an erection can also dampen your interest in sex. Low self-esteem, stress, anxiety, and certain medications can all reduce your sex drive. When all those worries are tied up with making love, your interest in sex can take a nosedive.

Your Health

Many different health conditions can affect the nerves, muscles, or blood flow that is needed to have an erection. As in begins only I said Diabetes, high blood pressure, hardening of the arteries, spinal cord injuries, and multiple sclerosis can contribute to ED. Surgery to treat prostate or bladder problems can also affect the nerves and blood vessels that control an erection.

How to Solve Erection Problems

It can be embarrassing to talk to your doctor about your sex life, but it's the best way to get treated and get back to being intimate with your partner. Your doctor can pinpoint the source of the problem and may recommend lifestyle interventions like quitting smoking, tobacco, alcohol, non vegetarian food or losing weight. Other treatment options are ED drugs, hormone treatments, a suction device that helps create an erection, or counselling. Now a days there are many good new medicines which can cure erectly dysfunction and premature ejaculation and man can have sex till his last breath.

Dr Paras Shah IS BEST SEXOLOGIST OF THE TOWN and Chief Consultant Sexologist & Fertility Specialist SANNIDHYA MULTI SPEICLITY HOSPITAL SAL HOSPITAL Ahmedabad, gujarat, India
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OBESITY CAN MAKE YOUR PENIS LOOK SMALLER… 

We live in a society where obese people are routinely made fun of and termed as ‘lazy’, ‘stupid’, ‘dumb’ or ‘slow’. This kind of segregation starts when a person is very young and obesity becomes the defining characteristic of an individual irrespective of his/her other qualities. With 1.5 billion people around the world in the overweight category, sex-related concerns of obesity is a situation various healthcare services will have to deal with sooner than later. Obesity not only leads to lifestyle diseases like diabetes, heart disease, cancer but also can dampen your sex life. It can lead to lack of sexual stamina, sexual dysfunction and hormonal imbalance. Also the medicines you take for various diseases that go hand-in-hand with obesity like diabetes, heart disease and hypertension can lead to lack of libido and erectile dysfunction among other sex-related problems. This labelling sticks for life and anyone who has faced childhood obesity is likely to develop very low self-esteem. This promotes a negative body image which makes obese people uncomfortable in their skins. How can you be comfortable having sex, if all your life you’ve been told you’re ugly? Also various studies have shown obese people are far likelier to suffer from depression and other mental health problems which reduce libido and are likely to cause sexual dysfunction. Lack of stamina Obesity is often associated with laziness and a sedentary lifestyle. And this may often percolate into their sex lives as well. In men, it will also significantly decrease the time they can maintain an erection. Here are the top some ways obesity can harm your sex life: Erectile dysfunction Did you know that obese men are far likelier to suffer from erectile dysfunction (ED) or impotency? Problems associated with obesity like high cholesterol, hypertension, diabetes prevent efficient blood flow to all parts of the body including the penis, thus causing issues with erection. This study has shown that even losing a little amount of weight can help beat the condition. Hormonal imbalance leading to low libido Obesity is directly linked to hormonal imbalance and lower testosterone levels, which in turn can inhibit sexual desires in both men and women. Another issue is that increased body fat leads to more sex hormone binding globulins (SHBG) in the system. SHBG is a natural chemical that binds to testosterone, which means that there is less of the sex hormone left to handle the demands of a normal sex life. There has also been evidence to suggest that obesity in young boys can lead to fatigue and development of male breasts. In young girls it can lead to PCOD, irregular menstrual cycle and thyroid problems. Infertility In women, obesity leads to abnormalities in their eggs that make them harder to fertilise. Sannidhya Hospital infertility department examined nearly 300 eggs that failed to fertilise during IVF and found obese women’s eggs were likelier to have chromosomal abnormalities. It also causes excess insulin production and PCOD (a condition where the periods are irregular and ovaries produce small, immature eggs instead of healthy mature ones). Obese women are also likely to suffer from failed pregnancies and miscarriages than regular weighing ones. Here is how to combat vaginal dryness naturally to have pleasurable sex. In men, obesity is directly linked to infertility because of the way it affects sperm. Research has found that men who consume a fatty diet have lower quality of sperm. Men consuming more saturated fats had 35 percent lower total sperm count and 38 percent lower sperm concentration than men who ate healthier. Obesity-related diseases that hinder sex People who are heavy, particularly in the central abdomen area tend to suffer from a host of diseases which can affect their sex lives in various ways. This can be due to physiological or psychological reasons or due to medicines taken for the disease. Diabetes, heart disease, cancer, hypertension, depression, dementia and other ailments all affect your sexual functioning. In fact, one of the most tell-tale symptoms of diabetes is erectile dysfunction. Medicines too, ranging from anti-depressants to those used to treat heart conditions, high blood pressure and cholesterol can lead to sexual issues like impotence, decreased sex drive, ejaculation problems and even delayed or no orgasms. Fewer sex positions possible Sadly, the sheer logistics of sex can change when one or both partners are fat and can make coitus in some positions particularly hard. The popular missionary position is out-of-bounds if the male partner is too heavy. And if both partners are obese, then the central abdominal area can prevent proper penetration. The rear entry style which is more popular among the obese can also cause problems because the woman usually has to spend a long amount of time on her knees. Spooning, a sex position where partners lie side by side is also hard for fat people. However, fat people shouldn’t fret and there are multitudes of positions that they can try with their partners. Less likely to have sex Let’s face it – we live in a society that judges us by our looks and obese people are always going to find it harder looking for a partner. The problem is even graver in a country like ours where it is okay for a man to be obese if he has a high-paying job or is from a rich family whereas it is almost impossible to find a groom for a ‘fat girl’. To sum it up, I don’t want to seem harsh pointing out how being fat or obese can harm your sex life. I was grossly obese myself and still continue to face multiple body image issues. But the fact remains that you can improve your sex life by simply losing a few kgs. And this will not only benefit your sex life but your overall health and well-being as well. What you’ve to realise is that the entire situation is in your own hand; you’re in control of your weight and you can choose to lose it whenever your heart desires Buried penis syndrome Folds of abdominal fat and skin in obese men make the penis look rather small or even ‘buried’ at times. Called the ‘buried penis syndrome’, it can seriously hamper sex lives. This however, should not be confused with the ‘micropenis’ which is a condition where the erect penis measures less than 3 inches. This is mostly a congenital disorder in children and can affect around 0.6% of the male population. The most common cause of penises to look like they’re shrinking, or to appear small is obesity. When a man is overweight, he collects fat in his pubic mound, which encases his penis making it look smaller. A large pubic fat pad makes the penile shaft look shorter. In some cases, abdominal fat all but buries the penis. One way I motivate my overweight patients is by telling them that they can appear to gain up to an inch in size simply by losing weight. Just as with average sized men, obesity will greatly reduce the size of your soft/flaccid penis, and can make your erect penis a little shorter too. Men less than 5 inches erect can appear to have very small penises as a result of obesity. In cases of extreme morbid obesity, some men can even look like they have a micropenis. When in fact medically they don’t have a micropenis, it’s just the obesity that makes it so. That’s how much of an impact obesity can have on your penis size. If the erect penis is measured correctly when overweight, the erect size should not be too different from what it always was. Correct measurement involves pushing the ruler hard into the fat pad, squashing it down as far as it goes. Average Size men and Obesity Many men mistakenly judge their penis size based on their soft/flaccid penis. If their soft/flaccid penis is in fact encased by pubic fat, then it can look very small in some cases, depending on the extent of the obesity. Some men have reported being average sized (5-7 inches erect) in their late teens, but due to morbid obesity later in life their penises can appear half that size (3-5 inches erect). You may have read the comment that fat men always have little dicks, and while this is true in some cases, most of the time the shorter penises are caused by the obesity. If theses men were to lose the weight they’d revert to looking like most other guys. Being fat makes your dick shorter. This man lost 15 Kg and the difference to his flaccid/soft penis size was remarkable. Note the large pubic fat pad when he was obese, and how it swallowed up much of his soft penis making it look small. In these extreme cases the penis hasn’t shrunk necessarily, although it’s common for penises to shrink a little as men get older. It’s mostly due to the fat deposits around their pubic and groin areas that make their once average sized penises look smaller. The average sized penis is still there, it’s just their bodies have gotten much bigger. The penis does not get larger with obesity, unlike male breasts for example. Your penis usually stays pretty much the same size. So losing weight can restore the appearance of your penis back to what it was. More importantly for many men, it can make your soft/flaccid penis look much larger which can help restore your confidence. Obesity also comes with many other health risks, but getting a small penis is not often mentioned when discussing it. Small Penis Men & Obesity Obesity can make the penis disappear when soft/flaccid One of the most common side effects of obesity for men who have very small penises to begin with is that their penises can become fully encased in the pubic fat pad when flaccid/soft. This creates what is colloquially referred to as a flaccid-inny or a mangina. This can be very embarrassing for these men. One man consulted me and told us that in his late teens his penis was 4.5 inches erect and he had a difficult time coming to terms with his small penis even back then. Now he is in his forties and weighs 110Kg’s, his erect penis now measures 3 inches erect. When his penis is soft/flaccid it is completely swallowed by his pubic mound like in the image above. This scenario is not uncommon amongst obese men. Having a soft/flaccid penis fully encased in pubic fat can create other problems too: • Urinating can become problematic, and create instances of incontinence. Some men may be required to sit when urinating. • Having a soft/flaccid penis that is always encased in the pubic fat pad can lead to fungal infections if the penis is not kept clean and dry. • Rashes from poor hygiene, heat, and sweat. • Odour problems. A hidden penis can cause severe self-esteem issues. These boys or men may not have a visible penis while standing and may have to sit to urinate. A boy or young adult can be ridiculed and made to feel inadequate by siblings or friends. It is not uncommon for concerned parents of a young boy to go to the pediatrician or pediatric urologist. Unfortunately, there is tremendous misinformation and lack of education even amongst these physicians. The parents are usually told that their son will outgrow the deformity if he loses weight or when he reaches puberty. Unfortunately, this is untrue in most instances especially if the boy has a moderate or severe buried penis. The boy is then lives with this psychologically traumatic deformity that could be corrected with a relatively non-invasive procedure. Adult males are also told that nothing can be done or that weight loss will correct the situation. Unfortunately, these men and boys often avoid social interactions that may require undressing, thus, severely affecting their lives. They may not participate in team sports or even date in order to avoid embarrassment and rejection. Social isolation can occur. The surgical correction of a buried penis depends on the abnormality. However, marked improvement can be achieved in almost all patients. The correction is based on re-establishing the connection of the erectile chambers of the penis to the penile skin along with the removal of excess pubic fat and/or skin. In severe cases of buried penis in which the patient has inadequate penis skin resulting from an overly aggressive circumcision or chronic inflammation, then the penis must be freed and covered with a skin graft. The surgery is usually performed as an outpatient unless a skin graft is needed. The improvement in penile and pubic appearance can be dramatic. Equally impressive is the patient’s positive personality and self-esteem improvement leading to more self-confidence and social interaction.
Dr Paras Shah IS BEST SEXOLOGIST OF THE TOWN and Chief Consultant Sexologist & Fertility Specialist SANNIDHYA MULTI SPEICLITY HOSPITAL SAL HOSPITAL Ahmedabad, gujarat, India
Email : dr9157504000@shospital.org